You’ve been blessed in many ways, and it’s always beneficial to show gratitude for that which you have received. In this ritual, you will be focusing on one thing that you are grateful for. Pick a fitting deity, spirit, ancestor, etc. to thank and a candle that you feel represents or would please them.
Sit comfortably in a chair. Relax, and allow yourself to breathe normally. Focus on your breath, and think about one thing you are grateful for. Focus on it, allow the thought to ebb and flow in step with your breath. When it feels right, light the candle. Deep breath in, deep breath out. Watch the flame dance. Attempt to not disturb it with your breath, and focus on the light. After a period of time, reach out to the being you have chosen to thank, and close your eyes. Allow their image to fill your mind. Think about how they helped you to get where you are, and how they stay with you. Then, simply thank them from your heart. This can be out loud or internal. Remember that there’s no need for fancy words. So long as your thanks are sincere, those two words, “thank you,” will mean more than anything else ever could. Repeat your thanks, whatever wording you may have chosen, several times. If you’re alone, or aren’t concerned about disturbing anyone, start off at a whisper and work up to almost a yell. Allow a steady crescendo, starting with simple sincerity and climaxing on vigorous enthusiasm, then allow your thanks to fade back down to a steady whisper. Do this all at your own pace, don’t force yourself in any one direction. Repeat the same words, but feel free to gesture, stomp, yell, sing, and dance as you feel appropriate. The most important thing is that you allow the enthusiasm of giving thanks to consume you entirely, and to express it appropriately. When you are exhausted or feel that you have completed the cycle, be sure to sit back down. Breathe deeply. Smell the room, feel the energy in the air. Think back to what you’re grateful for, and allow yourself to smile as wide as you please. Relax. Watch the flame dance. Allow yourself to be calm and serene. Close your eyes, and picture the being you thanked as fading, going back home. When their image is gone, give your proper goodbyes (e.g. “until we meet again, friend”) and remember that though they have left the space you have created, they are still and forever close by, there to help you and comfort you and lead you on your path. Open your eyes. Snuff or blow out the candle, as you feel is appropriate. Do not get up or go on with your day until the energy has faded and you feel complete and at peace. Sit, take in the room, and slowly bring yourself back into the physical world. This was your space, your time, and this is your life. Take the time to appreciate it all. Only when you feel completely present and the rush has faded may you get up, put your space back as it should be, and go on with your day.
Written By Jasmine Scarlatos